Listening for Possibility
Listening is the cornerstone of every successful relationship. Listening is required if we are to share joy with family and friends. By listening, we are able to understand the desires of our clients and customers. Listening allows us to respond appropriately to our bodies’ signals of ease or discomfort, and to compassionately attend to the needs of our children – long before they have the skills to express them in words. To receive the communication of another is one of the most generous gifts we can offer them, and yet this skill requires more of us than simply registering the words that are spoken.
To fully receive another’s communication is to be aware of the subtle emotions and intentions that are being expressed behind their words. When we listen to others without distraction, preconception or judgment, we create a space for them to listen more deeply to themselves; to reconnect with their emotions, and to honestly acknowledge those aspects of their lives where they’re not yet experiencing the fulfillment or success they desire.
As a Law of Attraction coach, and the founder of an international training company which certifies hundreds of coaches each year, I practice and teach a very distinct type of listening. Because I understand that the Law of Attraction is in every moment responding to and amplifying the vibration I am sending out, I listen to clients, friends, family members and even perfect strangers from the standpoint of possibility. In other words, in every communication that comes my way, I am actively listening for the essence of what is wanted, rather than what is not wanted.
Start paying closer attention to the interactions you witness every day, and you’ll notice that most people do not speak – or listen – from the perspective of what is possible, but rather from a mindset of lack and insufficiency. Complaining, justifying, or trying to enroll others in how hard things are or how unfair life is might seem like a harmless way to blow off steam, but we forget that the universe is always listening. When we argue for our limitations, we attract into our lives people, situations and experiences that reflect back to us just how powerless we feel. And when we deliberately seek the solution that every problem brings to light, we reclaim that power and shift our point of attraction.
To listen for possibility is to suspend our habitual tendency to agree or disagree with what is being expressed. It is to let go of personal history and prior knowledge of what has been in the past, and to focus instead on what could be in the future. It’s holding the person who is speaking as our object of attention while knowing that each of us is a powerful creator, and that any discontent we’re experiencing is essential to the process of clarifying what it is we do desire.
To listen for possibility – whether we are listening to ourselves or another – is to become more aligned in thought, emotion and energy with the solution that is wanted than with the problem that is being presented. Honing our listening skills in the direction of what is possible benefits us as much or more than it does those around us for one simple reason: What we look for (and listen for), we tend to find.
Christy Whitman is a transformational leader and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All. She has appeared on The Today Show and The Morning Show, and her work has been featured in People Magazine, Seventeen, Woman’s Day, Hollywood Life, and Teen Vogue, among others. Christy is the CEO and founder of the Quantum Success Coaching Academy, a 12-month Law of Attraction coaching certification program. Christy has helped thousands of people worldwide to achieve their goals through her empowerment seminars, speeches, and coaching sessions and products. Christy’s life-changing message reaches over 145,000 people a month, and her work has been promoted by and featured with esteemed authors and luminaries such as Marianne Williamson, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Marci Shimoff, Brian Tracy, Neale Donald Walsch, Abraham-Hicks, and Louise Hay. She currently lives in Montreal with her husband, Frederic, and their two boys, Alexander and Maxim.
Meet her at www.ChristyWhitman.com and www.TheArtofHavingItAll.com.
Latest posts by Christy Whitman (see all)
- Goal-Setting 2.0:Energetically Connecting With Your Future Self - June 3, 2016
- Listening for Possibility - November 20, 2015