Noble Leadership in Action Part Two : The Universal Laws of Leadership
85% of Canada’s entire population is now governed by women. World-wide we are witnessing the fast rise of women in leadership positions in both governments and corporations. Nostradamus and other great Saints predicted that this would happen in the Golden Era. They foretold of the challenges the planet would encounter due to the decisions made primarily by leaders of masculine bent – leaders who did not have the skills to govern with both logic and heart. Wars, drugs, guns, discrimination, corruption, greed and such are the result of decision making without the feminine components of love and compassion. Women, because they have the opportunity to give birth, are given the chance to develop compassion through motherhood. Thus, women who historically are known to lead with both logic and nurturing skills are stepping up to the plate to bring those components back into the world and restore order.
Both male and female Leaders, still governing in the old way, are either being removed or replaced pressured by powerful uprisings like the Wall Street type sit-ins in numerous countries. To meet the demands of this new era, Leaders are asking for help to more greatly access their loving compassion nature otherwise known as our Noble Quality (NQ). They now know that NQ requires they exhibit unconditional love, become more selfless and more protective of the people they serve. They choose a valued-based leadership style by exhibiting such values as honesty, respect, faith, courage, kindness, trust and self-love.
Best-selling author, political adviser, and social and ethical prophet Jeremy Rifkin in his book The Empathic Civilization presents the historical argument that empathy has helped us survive and thrive, and that we are evolving from Homo Sapiens to Homo Empathicus.
In Nostradamus Prophecies for Women by Manuela Dun Mascetti and Peter Lorie, the authors discuss the fascinating evolution of woman. “Humanity has spent many thousands of years at war, striving to improve its material welfare and battling it out between nations and beliefs. As a result, man has damaged his world almost to the point of rendering it beyond repair. If we believe what Nostradamus tells us, then the time has now come for a very different kind of energy to patch up and transform the strife-torn world.”
The next question we ask is, “How do we prepare women for their important role as Leaders towards a more empathic civilization?” One answer is coaching Leaders on The Universal Laws of Leadership. Here is one example.
Kate hired me her Executive Coach when she was working at a very senior leadership position in Government. Kate was one of those still governing in the old way, primarily with her logical analytical brain. Before we begin coaching, we often invite Leaders to conduct assessment profiles to help them see their own blind spots. Three important ones for Kate were:
• DiSC®: This psychometric assessment shows our primary behaviours in our role as a leader (is she domineering, influential, committed or analytical?);
• Leadership Skills Inventory: The LSI measures transformational leadership ability;
• Values-Based Competency Assessment: Measures a Leader’s empathy in terms of how well they demonstrate respect, faith, integrity and so on in the workplace.
Kate’s supervisor strongly suggested that she work with an Executive Coach to improve her listening skills, learn how to better communicate with her direct reports and exhibit more impact and influence – all right brain skills which had eluded Kate up to this point.
With the assessment profiles completed, it was no surprise to Kate that the DiSC® showed her to be at the top of the charts in terms of arrogance and extremely low in the influential category. While some Leaders immediately go into denial about such a profile, Kate graciously acknowledged that this described her perfectly because instead of coaching her direct reports to find their own answers to challenges and goals, Kate’s ego would barge in and give them advice on how they should solve their challenges. She rarely listened to what others had to say. “Yes, this is me. Betska, help me change please. I don’t want to be like this anymore. I must come across as a tyrant! ”
Knowing that this was an issue, we went into discovery mode to find out why Kate found it difficult to listen. The root cause of the behavior came from the dinner table when she was growing up. The loudest person (not the empathic listening person) got the rewards and thus Kate, not knowing any better, transferred this behavior from childhood to leadership.
Stunned that she had held onto this unconstructive behaviour for decades, Kate requested that we change her belief systems in her subconscious mind. With the memories of the dinner table fresh in our minds, we set about to write out new belief systems for her. v
I, Kate, now listen with my eyes, my ears, and my heart and with undivided attention. I now engage people in a healthy discussion as I ensure that every person speaks their heart and mind.
I, Kate, now welcome silence in our conversations because in that silence genius is made.
Through the coaching Kate began to understand The Law of Belief “What you think you become” or “Our thoughts ARE our actions.” She was also excited to learn that she could change her beliefs at a cellular level with the right techniques. Thus her behaviours could change permanently and a new type of leader would be borne inside of her.
Along with the awareness of why she didn’t listen we discussed the WAIT concept for Leaders which is Why Am I Talking! She learned communication techniques which dramatically engaged her direct reports to take greater responsibility and accountability for their actions. With her new found beliefs and new skills as a listener and communicator, Kate began to see her relationship with her direct reports quite differently. Whereas in the past she had thought of her colleagues as “complete idiots” she now saw them as intelligent, committed and loyal human beings.
About a month into our coaching work, Kate got offered a fabulous job running a rather large organization as President and CEO. With her greatly improved listening skills Kate felt prepared to listen well to her new direct reports. Her next challenge was a newly inherited manager who exhibited bad behaviors such as arrogance, egocentric, domineering, demanding and forceful. The Board of Directors wanted her to get rid of him. His employees didn’t trust him and he walked around with a scowl on his face. Just the kind of happy-go-lucky guy you like having lead your teams! Of course I am being cheeky here!
Kate asked me for help because she felt that this person was, from a technical perspective, a very valuable employee even though his people skills were hugely lacking. Together we developed a set of 12 coaching questions she could ask him in order to open his heart to mature leadership – someone who leads with both logic and heart.
At the end of the coaching session, Kate was very happy with the approach we had taken and was excited to try it. Before we hung up the phone, a strong intuitive call made we suggest that when she went to visit David that she take him a plant for his office.
Yesterday during a follow-up session Kate could hardly contain her joy. When she presented David with the plant, David responded with the biggest smile she had ever seen on him. He wondered “How did you know that I love gardening?”
Let’s take a look at how The Universal Laws of Leadership apply in this situation. A good source for many of these laws is Your Life by Bruce McArthur. As we study Kate’s coaching sessions I invite you to see how, as a Leader, you can use these laws to change your own behaviours as well as those of your direct reports.
There are many Master Laws, many sub-laws of the Master Laws, and many sub-laws of the sub-laws. The Universal Laws of Leadership are the emotional/spiritual laws as profound in their function as gravity is on a physical level. Let’s study Kate’s coaching sessions and how leaders can use these laws to change their own behaviours as well as those of their direct reports.
1. Law of Service: “The more I love myself, the more I can love/service others.”
Kate quickly learned that by governing primarily with her logical left brain she was missing the most important trait of a leader which is having bilateral thinking ability or the ability to switch easily between their logical left brain and nourishing right brain for whole brain leadership. Kate worked hard to love herself more and thus with more love inside her she was better able to be in a more loving space with which to lead her teams.
2. Law of Equality: “My true needs, wants, desires, hopes, dreams, wishes, and their fulfillment are as important as those of any other soul in existence. In The Creator’s eyes, I am just as important as the next person.”
Tragically, over the years Kate had wounded a few hearts by believing that she was better than others. As leaders, parents, and employees we create a safer environment at work and at home when we see each other as equals. For example, prejudice must stop in this world for the reason that when we put others down or think that we are lower than others, we are not honouring the Godself of everyone. The compassionate thing to do is to help the ones who are slower than us to fully access their brilliance.
In the wise words of Gabriel Garcia Marquez, “I have learned that a man has the right to look down on somebody only when he is helping him to get up.”
3. Law of Mastery of Self: “As I Master my lower self, I become my higher self to access innovative solutions to challenges and goals.”
The Clarity Solutions Model™
In The Clarity Solutions Model™ above, we see that our ‘lower self’ shows up when we are angry, frustrated, blaming or in judgment or any of the other negative emotions. Our ‘higher self’ shows up when we are peaceful and calm and therefore solutions will present themselves from our genius (wisdom or intuition). Kate’s reaction to this Universal Law of Leadership was this “My God, Betska. For twenty years I have held this belief that I was to hide my emotions versus dealing with them in a constructive manner. In my years in government I was always taught that emotions were ‘fluffy stuff’ and therefore not important. I also shut down my employees by not listening to their feelings. What a disservice to them and to myself. I have basically been killing their spirit by not listening to their hearts”
4. Law of Choice: “If I wish to change my life, I must change my choices.”
By doing some leadership reflection, Kate realized that if she truly wanted to be a great leader she had to make the choice to reform her old ways and stop hurting others through her unconstructive leadership style. As tears for twenty years of anguish poured from her lovely face she was relieved of the burden of guilt.
By virtue of having a choice, we become 100% responsible for our lives.
5. Law of Belief: “What I think, both consciously and unconsciously, I become. My thoughts are my actions.” Turn unconstructive words, thoughts, and actions into positive ones.
We store both our unconstructive and positive beliefs in our subconscious mind. As leaders we have an obligation to discover what beliefs we have that are sabotaging our beliefs to be noble leaders.
Our subconscious mind is 1 million times more powerful than our conscious mind. Says Bruce Lipton author of many books including Biology of Belief, “… the subconscious mind … processes some 20,000,000 environmental stimuli per second v. 40 environmental stimuli interpreted by the conscious mind in the same second …” ”How is the subconscious going to manage our affairs? Precisely the way it was programmed. … If our subconscious were programmed with such healthy behaviors, we could be totally successful in our lives …”
Because science has proven that it is our unconscious mind’s beliefs which are running the show a good Executive Coach will help a leader discover their sabotaging beliefs and turn them into permanent positive beliefs. It is hugely beneficial for the leader to discover the root cause or the event which planted the unconstructive belief in the first place. With this information the Client moves forward to “architect” their new leadership style.
6. Law of Life: “Love is stronger than fear.”
By courageously looking inward Kate opened herself up to realizing that love is indeed stronger than fear. She turned her fears into loving action for her employees. This Law hugely impacts our actions. If we have a fear, we must embrace that loving attention to any fear can destroy the fear forever.
In summary, Kate had hit a homerun in her Leadership style. She was leading with both logic and heart. She was so joyful it was a pleasure to work with her as every two weeks she would have all these fantastic results to share with me.
Does it take courage to be a noble leader? Yes, but what is the option? The opposite is feeling unfulfilled with heart heavy. As a Leader, what is your choice?
Golden Era Coaches are mindful that as Helping Professionals, we must create environments where our Clients move forward quickly, are enspirited, and take action for a more successful life. _______________________End of Article one.
7. First Law of Increase:
a) “What I resist persists. My negative patterns repeat themselves.” Cam was a smart businesswoman; yet, while she was aware of her pattern, she did not know consciously where it had begun and obviously did not know how to remove it. Therefore her pattern persisted. Our Higher Power will keep bringing these unconstructive patterns forward until we do something to change them.
b) “The seeds of gratitude, kindness, joy, etc. will bring even more positives to me.”
With her new positive belief systems in place, Cam will sow many seeds of gratitude, kindness, and joy by being a role model of enforcing boundaries. These actions will bring even more positives to her.
8. Law of Attraction: “I attract people, places, and things into my life to help me grow emotionally, spiritually, physically, and intellectually. Some will push my buttons. Others will celebrate life with me. Birds of a feather flock together.”
Cam unconsciously attracted these Clients into her life to push her buttons and to show her that she too had the same pattern of not setting and enforcing boundaries.
9. Like Begets Like (The Mirror Law): “What I see in others is a reflection of what I see in myself. When I point fingers, I have three others pointing back at me.”
This Law states that if we are emotionally charged when thinking about someone else’s unconstructive behaviour, then they are mirroring back to us that we have the very same behaviour. The Law also states that if we are happy with someone else’s behaviour, then they are mirroring back to us that we too have that wonderful, positive behaviour and we could take a moment to celebrate that!
Remember the family matrix and how children can take on the patterns from their parents because they are being raised in the energy matrix (beliefs) of their parents? It is possible that when Cam’s parents and grandparents accused her, Cam took on the pattern of mirroring her parents by also judging others as witnessed by her judgment of her Clients. A second mirror, as mentioned in the previous Law, is that these women were reflecting back to Cam how she too couldn’t set boundaries. A third mirror could be that these women and children were looking for people to rescue them instead of finding their own inner power to rescue themselves. For 30 years, Cam had not thought of learning how to rescue herself. A fourth mirror, and this time a constructive one, is that the women loved their children so much, they wished a better life for them, and Cam too wished a better life for herself and for them. Such a blessing.
10. Law of Love: “Major transformation comes only when I: a) define the issue (root cause pattern and the learning); b) express my feelings; c) bring love to the issue.”
Science has shown us that because our emotions are blocking energy from entering the cells, we can only have the greatest clarity after the release of the emotional charges. Cam was able to begin transforming her behaviour only after she discovered “why” she was behaving this way and connected her current behaviour to its origin. For all Clients, once this discovery is made, the receptors can begin to “pop” energetically and let in the nutrients to the cell. Cam brought “love to the issue” through the discussion of The Universal Laws and by doing a final release with a methodology from The Emotional Charges Release Chart
She streamed in from her superconscious the perfect solution for her challenge in the form of a red duck. The “red” to her meant “power”. The “duck” to her represented three things, namely “floating on water, oily feathers which prevent it from getting wet inside, and motherhood.”
Because the PCMK™ release methods are engineered scientifically to give the Client the perfect solution to a challenge or goal, Cam concluded that the red duck was indeed perfect for her. Her plan was to implement a new group meeting session every morning with her Clients. She would reinforce the boundaries and say how important it was for everyone to follow the boundaries because by everyone watching the budget of the shelter, more women and children would benefit. This she gleaned from the oily feathers. If people don’t understand fully the consequences of their behaviours, they can’t internalize and therefore this “oil” will not allow them to connect to the consequences nor stop their behaviours. These morning meetings would remove the “oil”. The “red” colour represented power. This to her meant that by taking back her power (not permitting them to control her), she will be a better role model for them in terms of encouraging them to take back their power in their own lives. The “motherhood” represented something highly emotional for Cam. Because her parents and grandparents (role models) blamed her for the death of her brother, Cam took on the pattern of blaming others. She learned that by replacing judgment with understanding, equality, compassion, and communication she could lead a more meaningful life and better serve her Clients. WOW!
11. Laws of Giving: “As I give love, I receive that love back again. As I give, I gain in understanding.”
Cam knew that by setting boundaries, she was actually giving love by helping the Clients learn how to be more responsible for their actions.
12. Laws of Karma: “What I sow, I reap. As I do good things to myself and others, good things come back to me. As I behave badly towards myself and others, ‘negative’ things come back to me. What goes around comes around.”
Also known as The Law of Cause and Effect, this law is vital to embrace in our journey to self-realization. By having the negative belief that she killed her brother and by her parents/grandparents believing that Cam killed her brother, all parties were adding to their negative spiritual bank account. With Cam internalizing the learning and flipping her belief systems, she is now erasing the negative account balance and adding more merits to her positive spiritual bank balance.
13. Law of Priority: “I must save myself first before I can save another.”
This Law we hear often on airplanes where they inform us in an emergency to put the oxygen mask on ourselves before we place it on our child. Because Cam’s coaching session helped her save herself from her unconstructive beliefs, she was able now to better serve her Clients. The shelter became both a physical and emotional safe haven for the abused.
14. Law of Forgiveness: “I forgive myself to receive love from others. I forgive others to be able to give more love to them.”
Such a beautiful Law. What it means is for us to consider being more kind and compassionate to ourselves and to others. To be completely free of the event at age 14, Cam will need to forgive her brother, her parents, her grandparents, and herself totally. With just this one coaching session, she was able to do much of that forgiving. I didn’t see her again. There probably wasn’t a need because the transformation was so huge in a 90-minute session. At the same time, it is possible that she may have chosen therapy to have in-depth discussions about her pain. She would have used The Law of Choice to select her next Helping Professional.
As I write these chapters, I am having fun observing the two hummingbird feeders suspended from a gorgeous arbutus tree. John faithfully fills them up in order to ensure that these lovely sentient beings are well stocked with liquid food. We both enjoy watching our sweet little bird friends in their daily activities. Each of these feeders has three flowers from which the birds can feed. In total there are six flowers. At this moment, three hummingbirds are fighting like crazy to chase the others away from the feeders. In other words, each hummer wishes to have both feeders to themselves. On the surface, it would appear that they are being very greedy; however, when we understand their behaviour, we completely change our opinion of them. You see, hummers use so much energy to stay alive. Being raging, metabolic furnaces, they have to be “power smart”. The males belligerently defend these feeders, driving all other hummers away because this serves as their insurance policy for their high-energy needs.
If all humans embraced The Universal Laws of Human Behaviour, we would be as successful as these hummingbirds in terms of sustaining life. Imagine if each one of us pugnaciously looked inside ourselves every day to turn unconstructive, unconscious beliefs into positive beliefs and actions. Just imagine that! Our lives would be far more meaningful. We would accomplish a lot more and be spiritually well fed. The “God” inside of us would feel peaceful. And, as we have already seen from my story and the stories of PCMK™ Clients, the less unconstructive trash we have in our unconscious, the less we have blocking our access to that very wise Godself.
I’m not suggesting that we become selfish and chase others away! Au contraire! What I am suggesting is that we benefit when we delve inside ourselves to get to better know ourselves, when we show that same determination as the hummers to “feed self.”
The Cam coaching story powerfully illustrates how we never know what can happen in a coaching session. What started out to be a business coaching session actually turned into both a business and life coaching session. Terry was right when he said that we cannot separate business and life since we are just one being and our business and personal lives form the matrix of who we are as a person.
Coaches who have the training to work with such speed with their Client’s subconscious are truly enspiriting their Clients. Golden Era Coaches are mindful that as Helping Professionals, we must create environments where our Clients move forward quickly, are enspirited, and take action for a more successful life.
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